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|  Online sex has taken on a new meaning...
The internet has enabled tens of millions of people from all parts of the world who would have never met otherwise to now meet specifically for sex and/or romance. This is biggest felt in North America.
Online personals work. This is probably the most widely kept *secret* today. Not many people will admit meeting online, and yet so many people nowadays meet online again and again.
This writer has a close friend who boasts to having steamy love affairs with over 140 women in the last two years, whom he met through online personals - on occassion having sex with two women in the SAME day. And one day, he had it with three women. Not at the same time, mind you. Rather spaced out. Morning. Afternoon. Night.
I can imagine the *stress* he was under that day. Yeah, right. I'm new to online personals myself in the last few weeks, but I now have goals to shoot for. Before hand, I was the one successful with women. It seems technology has turned the tables on me, and my friend - who'd only been with maybe 4 women his whole 32 years of life - has quickly and suprisingly outpaced me.
If you're cruising online personals for any kind of action, the most important thing to remember is to cater to your audience.
If you're going to portray yourself as a stud in an ad or a steamy singles chat room, don't be too surprised if you get jumped online by women who don't want anything more than a chance to experience what you say you can give them (yes, in this day and age of online anonymity, they will find you - trust us); and don't be surprised if they immediately ask for a pic. After all, Mr. Bigshot, you're the stud - prove yourself. If you want something more, say so in a consistent tone that tells women who it is you're after.
After all, what can any woman hope to give you other than what you ask for? Your tone, and where you are on the Net, determines your audience and your potential dates. If you're hard into classical music, go hang out in those chat rooms and make *friends* there.
Use your most passionate hobbies and preferences to find people that are deeper than the usual chat areas or singles web pages. Try checking out those hobbies online and feel free to join message boards. Just keep in mind that what you write (and where you write it) will determine who you catch.
Can I lie in my ad?
Hey, we all pad that resume when we're just starting out; but there's a difference between making things sound as well as they possibly can and outright lying. While it's certainly fun to pretend that you're actually slim with an athletic build while you're really not (or if you used to be slim and athletic like the man talked about above), the truth will eventually come back to haunt you. Horrible, horrible truth; there's no way to get around it. The point is to be reasonably honest at the beginning of any relationship - at least enough so that you don't have to explain how you put on 70 pounds and gave up deep sea diving in the two hours you spent traveling to get to her. Use your head. She's expecting to see and spend time with the man she's been writing emails to; make sure the emails reasonably fit who she meets.
If you're still thinking of pushing that 'truth' envelope, just remember that this thing can flap two ways; she can be lying to you. That little girl barely out of her teens can be a man just out of prison, and very lonely. So being honest with her allows you to insist on the same honesty. Again, we understand the desire to 'pad the resume' a bit. Women do it, too; everyone does. Just make sure your 'padding' doesn't create a myth you can't possibly hope to live up to in real life - unless, of course, neither of you were planning to meet in the first place. But since you're a man, I doubt that 'wishful thinking' will be enough. Keep it in the realm of truth.
Another thing to keep in mind: Don't rush into things, unless that's exactly what the two of you are looking for. Hey, we're adults here; some people, male and female, or just looking to get together for a bit of fun now and again. If both of you are fine with that, no problem there. One thing we deeply recommend you remember though is that you don't really know if you want this person until you meet them.
This writer once began writing emails to a woman who, in all honesty, seemed to be just what he had always been looking for: very intelligent, funny, sexually adventurous, with a pretty face, flowing dark hair, and a frankly killer body. She was even bisexual it turned out - and willing to eventually bring a friend into the bedroom for some very hot times. In other words, it seemed a virtual hit of the jackpot.
And, as those amazing emails turned into equally amazing (and steamy) two-hour daily phone calls, it seemed more and more certain that this was the most amazing thing to happen to either of us by simple emails. The calls correctly gave each person a great deal of confidence that this was bound to be the start of something beyond anything we'd thought we'd find . . .
But after a few hours of spending time with this woman on a planned weekend-long vacation and sexual romp (which was also our very first face-to-face meeting), all this writer could think of was how he could get out of the arrangement and away from this woman. Why? Because he'd found that this seemingly fascinating creature on the phone and in emails was the most pretentious windbag he'd ever met in the flesh, without a single real thought of her own. She was as physically attractive as her pics made her out to be, but that's about the only thing that didn't seem totally different about her in an actual meeting. To be fair though, the writer disappointed her in much the same way.
She didn't really lie about herself; neither did the writer lie to her. It merely seemed that aspects of our personalities that had frankly been impossible to discern by emails and a few phone calls made themselves apparent in prolonged face-to-face contact. Our 'incredible romance' never really lasted the weekend.
Therefore the only way to truly get to know someone is still the old-fashioned 'face-to-face' meeting, there's no getting around it. Had this writer's failed romance proceeded slower, to where each person could have gotten use to the unfamiliar 'body language' of the other, and began understanding the other more as a complete person, it probably would have ended quite differently. This writer has never made that same mistake again.
So even if you're looking for a simple 'hook-up', make sure you go through a ritual of writing a few emails, then making a few calls to get to know the person a bit better, then having a meeting without the unnecessary pressure that anything must happen that evening. It's always understood that the first meeting is a means to get acquainted, that's all it must necessarily mean. If something does happens later on that night . . . that's something else, and a very pleasant surprise to boot. But real compatibility - sexual or otherwise - is a stubborn thing; it only really shows itself completely in face-to-face meetings.
Once women are emailing you back, make it a point to go at least 7 email exchanges before suggesting a meeting. If she suggests a meeting sooner, go for it. At all times with your emails, remember to joke around, flirt, and most importantly TEASE!
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Cosmopolitan, one of the largest women's magazines in the world, recently revealed that over 80% of U.S. women have tried online dating.
Now look what Cosmo wrote (aimed at women) in 'Cosmo's Guide to Online Dating': ...
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