An unavoidable aspect of any relationship that’s crucial to its development is its sexual health. For many of us, it’s a topic we’re not entirely comfortable dealing with. For others, however, it’s easy to be open about sexuality and what type of lover you’re seeking.
If you’re involved in a relationship with a partner who’s not exactly forthcoming about their desires and needs, it’s important you attempt to put your finger on the pulse.
Whether you just started a relationship with someone via an free dating site or have been a couple for years, gauging the relationship’s sexual health is crucial if you expect to keep that part of your life open and evolving.
Once it’s shut off, day-to-day interactions before evermore tedious and even the best of friends can begin to turn on one another.
Here are a few comfortable ways you can approach the topic of sexual health in the relationship with your partner:
1: Do talk about sex with humor
Sex doesn’t have to be serious, and speaking about it doesn’t have to be either. A little self-depreciating humor, letting a corny movie act as your lead-in, or even presenting it in a “fun” way can open up the channels and allow you and your partner to speak about where your relationship is at on a sexual level.
2: Do it with surprise
It might seem like a heck of a thing to spring on someone, but a spur-of-the-moment approach and getting it out there in the open is infinitely better than brewing on it and halfheartedly “almost” bringing it up for weeks on ends and having to hear the proverbial “honey, what’s wrong” while you answer “umm, nothing.”
3: Do it for the both of you
Whether you’re satisfied with your relationship’s sexual health or not, this is about the partnership and you should approach any conversation keeping both parties in mind. Think of the “sex” conversation just like a conversation about having kids, getting married, buying a home, etc. You notice any trend here? Yes. It’s a conversation that’s natural, normal and nourishing.
Meeting people and finding a relationship via online dating sites, bars, etc, is the easy part. Keeping them healthy requires a little bit of effort.