It isn’t the easiest thing in the world to do but occasionally you will have to dump the person you’re in a relationship with. There are plenty of wrong ways to break up with someone , but there are also right ways to get out of a sticky situation without hurting anyone too badly.
How to dump someone you’ve been dating
You never want to just wing it when it comes to dumping your dating partner. It isn’t any easier to dump someone you’ve had a four month relationship with than it is to break up with someone from a four year relationship.
So, take some time to decide what you want to say. You have to do better than call or text “it’s over.” People need closure and they usually want to know why. When you break it off, (in person,) explain why it just isn’t working out.
Keep it together when ending a relationship
Be strong and firm when you are breaking up. There is usually that part of everyone that kind of feels sorry for the other person. You know what a great catch they’re losing, but don’t let that sway your determination.
The best way to break up—besides in person—is in a public place. Be sure you have a friend waiting on you in case it turns ugly and you may need a shoulder to lean on.
Everyone takes a break up differently
Some people will just be hurt and leave quietly. Others will get angry, loud, and accusatory or just storm out.
This may not be the absolute end. You may have to explain again to your no-longer-significant-other. They may have questions they need to ask. It may take a day or so for them to wrap their brain around the ending and need to talk. It is a good idea to talk to them. You might be able to retain some kind of a friendship even if you don’t have a relationship.
You can feel free to call one of the people your ex is close to. Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on and since they weren’t expecting you to dump them they may need someone. Explain that you broke up with their friend and they may be needed to talk it out with.
It is never easy to dump someone, but there is a right way to spare everyone’s feelings.